tom hanks and family
American actor and director Tom Hanks recently spoke about his parenting style and how it differs from the way he was raised by his “obsessed” parents.
On the latest episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty, Hanks talked about growing up with divorced parents and how that affected him raising his four children.
Hanks has son Colin Hanks, 49, and daughter Elizabeth Hanks, 42, with his first wife Samantha Lewis and Chet Hanks, 34, and Truman with his longtime wife Rita Wilson.・There is Hanks (28).
busy parents
“My parents were very focused on the positive and the negative parts of their lives,” Hanks, the third of four children, told host Jay Shetty. My family situation was in flux because I moved a lot. My parents had remarried and I had lived in eight different homes by then. “I was 10 years old and lived in 10 different houses,” he said.
When Shetty asked if he would raise his children differently, Hanks said he tried to do so. “We tried to do that, but we made all the mistakes. You know, we do some harm to our kids in the exact same way,” he said.
“And as they grow up, you come back and (say), ‘Hey, can we talk about what I’ve been with you for years?’ And (they say), ‘ “Yes, of course, Dad.” Yes, I’ve been waiting for this for a while. Why don’t you take it down? ”
“But at the same time I want to say…would it be 50-50? Maybe the attitude and the life we led. Lol, those things are worth their weight in jewel-encrusted gold.” ” he said.
what he learned from children
Shetty also asked Hanks if he had learned anything from his children while raising them, to which Hanks replied, “How different are we all? Children are not the same type of people as before.” “Yo,” he replied.
He also recalled the story of his youngest son, Truman Hanks, who “felt good about” his role as a father and fatherhood in general.
“He was younger, about 7 or 8 years old. I said, ‘Oh, at one point, let’s go down — we were in New York — let’s go to the park, take off the gloves and throw. ‘I’m going to hit the ball, I just need to find a spot on the grass.’ And (he) said, ‘Okay, let’s do that.'” But Hanks was too busy to go out to the park with him. said. When he realized this, he asked his son for forgiveness, but his son said, “No, it’s okay.” However, Mr. Hanks seemed to feel sorry for his son.
Hanks apologized and said he didn’t want his son to feel bored, to which his son replied, “Dad, I’m never bored.”
“And that speaks to … curiosity and drive and the comfort of being where you are to be free to explore whatever the world is,” Hanks said. He learned that children have the ability to pursue their own interests without being prompted or forced.
Reminiscence
Hanks also previously spoke about the differences in development between his older children and Wilson’s sons.
In a 2019 interview with The New York Times, he said: “I think about the mistakes I made with my children, the times I didn’t explain things or not be there for them. Or just being an adult and being too distracted by other things going on in the world. “
Regarding how they grew up differently as a result of his career, he said, “My son Colin was born when I was young. Same with my daughter, but it’s because we have this gestalt.” It means they have that understanding because they remember what it was like when their father was there.” My other children were born after I had established a beachhead in every sense of the word. So their lives were completely different. ”
