She is 20 years old and pregnant with her second child, but her relationship with her stepmother is rocky, to say the least.
From day one, Mil has tried to take over her role as a mother, from making cruel comments to suggesting she move in to “help out.”
After a particularly brutal family gathering, she finally set firm boundaries and now her MIL is playing the victim card.
Was she wrong to say enough is enough?
I (20th floor) am currently pregnant with my second child and have a 2-year-old son with my husband (24).
My relationship with my mother-in-law (MIL) was rocky from the beginning, but it got even worse after my son was born.
My MIL didn’t really like me.
She revealed that although my husband and I have been together for four years and are happy, she thinks our son can do better.
A classic case of monster in-laws.
From the beginning, she has always tried to keep everything to herself and her husband.
She constantly invites him to dinners and events without including me, calls him multiple times a day, and makes comments like, “No one will love you as much as I do.”
At first I tried to understand. I know she is a single mom and her husband is an only child, but things are getting out of hand.
Every time she comes to visit, she tries to degrade me in front of my son.
She tries to take over my parenting duties, saying things like, “Mommy doesn’t know what she’s doing.”
I even once told my son, “Grandma is the only person who really cares about you.”
Oh no, did she go there?
When she told her husband about it, he was supportive but didn’t want to confront her directly, thinking it would only make things worse.
It drove me crazy because every time I mentioned it my MIL would deny everything or say I was too sensitive.
But recently it reached a breaking point.
We were at a family gathering and MIL commented in front of everyone that she should “move in with us to help raise the kids” because I “obviously need it”. did.
Oh my God.
I was mortified and furious.
My husband defended me, but she started crying and said I was “trying to take her son away from her.”
After that, I decided enough was enough.
I told my husband that until my MIL learned to respect me as a mother and a wife, she would not be allowed to come visit or see my son.
My husband is on my side, but my MIL is now telling everyone that I’m keeping her away from her grandchildren out of malice, and some of my husband’s relatives have contacted me saying I’m being unfair.
AITA for setting boundaries with my mother-in-law, or am I overreacting?
Redditors had no sympathy for the mother-in-law here. They overwhelmingly supported boundaries and said it was time for the MIL to realize that she was the grandmother, not the mother, and definitely not the one in charge.
This person thinks her husband needs to be more involved.
This person thinks their MIL is manipulative and shouldn’t be around kids.
And this guy is just a comedian.
If grandma believes she is the real parent, you may sometimes have to revoke visitation privileges.
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